No One Cares — And That's Great!
Embracing Social Solitary Confinement
Truthfully, no one cares. Not your partner, not your father, not your mother, not your brother, nor your sister. This sounds bleak — that there is no support for you to depend on. It turns out that this is the best situation anyone in any era of human history has ever found themselves in. Humans are no longer bound to the thoughts of what others might say. Even if your monkey-brain pushes for community, the trajectory of human consciousness is now pointing toward something I like to call social solitary confinement.
I have found myself in social solitary confinement for some years now. Social solitary confinement is the idea of voluntarily integrating yourself into society only to benefit your own goals, while emotionally detaching yourself from its members for your own mental health. I think I have forgotten the time when I truly trusted people, but I don’t think this has made me a bad person. As a matter of fact, it has given me the opposite effect: I give a lot to others because I feel great knowing I have given a lot. Everything great that you do has a positive mental effect on yourself. Doing great things allows you to see injustices done to you with clarity. You learn what is right and wrong. This is a more powerful tool than religion, which normally encourages good deeds because you’ll “go to heaven” or be “reincarnated.”
Social solitary confinement does not require physical isolation or hostility toward others. Instead, it is a psychological posture: a conscious separation between one’s emotional stability and the unpredictable behaviors of others. One continues to participate in society, cooperate with others, and contribute to communities, but one’s sense of meaning and emotional equilibrium are internally anchored rather than socially dependent.
If you believe someone has done something to you that you don’t like, but the whole relationship has been fine — why should you let such a thing ruin a fantastic relationship dynamic that is serving your needs? The only ethical way to respond to such injustices done to you is to turn the other cheek and practice social solitary confinement. You must let them off the hook, as they are benefiting you in other ways. Your rock should be the good deeds and things you have done for them that have gone unrewarded. It’s a great way to make sure you know you are leading the right path for your spirit.
Do not get it confused; this is not narcissism. I believe that you should NEVER throw these good deeds into the face of others. This ruins the idea of social solitary confinement as you have ruined the main premise: you must emotionally detach yourself from others. Throwing the good deeds you have done for someone onto their faces ruins your own sense of morality and reaches into the realm of narcissism. This is why Jesus of Nazareth believes in turning the other cheek, as you will be spiritually rewarded for not putting down the blind.
Social solitary confinement is the future of human consciousness. It is why modern movements related to human rights will flourish because everyone will be spiritually rewarded for being part of such movements.